Cultivating the skill of Self Control.

What ways can you develop your self-control in order to improve your ability to lead – lead your own life, lead your business, lead a group, etc?

Share in the comments below what you will be working on this week to cultivate and improve this skill.

Becoming a Great Leader

Monday Morning Mentoring

I do believe it will have to be the women of the western world who will ultimately save this world. But it cannot be saved from the same energy that has created the current culture, mores and structure.

Over the next few weeks I will share what I have used to heal and transform my own world, so that we can all step fully in to the roles that we are here to lead.

Before we can fully Lead, I believe there are key areas that must be address. That may look like healing, it may look like skill development. I do not believe we have to be in a suit and in a politics to make the impact that we are here to make nor to lead the lives we are meant to lead.

The first requirement is that we must each find that Unwavering Courage. We know that as we decide to take a stand, many times we will be targets. Held accountable in ways that men usually are not. This is readily seen in our relationships and in business. Just think of the woman who decides to choose how she will birth her children, judged at every turn and from the closest to the strangers as a whole. Or how the woman who chooses not to have children and focuses on her career and calling instead. Judged and ridiculed by men and women alike.

Those are just a couple of the myriad of examples, and I don’t need to go on. The fact is, we as women MUST have UNWAVERING COURAGE.

Courage: noun, the ability to meet danger and difficulties with firmness : the ability to do something that you know is difficult or dangerous

Derived from Old French corage, from Latin cor ‘heart.’

Now this has a lot more meaning to me as a Yogi and energy healer (you can see a quick video I made talking about the heart chakra) but it’s not necessary for the work we are doing this week.

Because the HEART is a key Energy vessel, not just the organ but the essence of our Unity and communion and it is where we need to lead from FIRST, this piece must be in place. How do we get unwavering courage? I am going to venture to say that each one of us has expressed in our lives at one time or another that UNWAVERING Courage.

Can you think of a time or two? I can. Just remembering those moments will be a powerful action step this week! When you recall those past moments of unwavering courage – recall every nuance, the smell, the textures, the sounds. Feel into that moment and use that to bring you strength for something you need to find courage in today.

This unwavering courage is something we must each continuously cultivate for ourselves as well as each other – to build fortitude in order to fulfill our Dreams.

The second piece that we need to focus on is Self Confidence.

The confidence to BE fully oneself without having to tear another down in order to show up. The confidence to support another without forfeiting your own needs. The confidence to take the time you need to restore and reset if you don’t know your exact next steps. These are just a few examples of how I define SELF CONFIDENCE.

This week, set aside your SELF CARE time with a focus on your HEART. Your hearts desire. Your compassion for self if you have been more focused outwardly. Your compassion for other’s if you have been more focused inward. Come in to a balance with this energy.

Take one action that you know you want to complete these week and make a promise to yourself that by the end of the week you will complete that. Whether it is telling someone no you will not be attending the party, volunteering for that fundraiser, or yes, I will take on that role and I’m excited to do so.

Whatever that piece is for you, do it from a place of PURE HEART. When you have completed that, take the time to honor and acknowledge your hearts choice.

For me this week, I am committed to facing my fear with the spartan race that I committed to last year. I signed up for this race for 2 reasons, 1 that I wanted to think about something bigger than myself and 2 because I didn’t want to confront the pain of my divorce.

I can see now what I could not see then. That unwavering courage is what I will practice this week and through every moment of the race.

When you need reinforcement, use your power stance and shout even if silently (but it’s better out loud!)
“I AM COURAGEOUS!! “I CAN DO THIS!”

Here’s to an awesome week! Go Lead a Life YOU LOVE!

I’ll be announcing the open enrollment for the 5 DAY SOULFUL SELF-CARE CHALLENGE Soon. I only do this amazing 5 day virtual retreat 2 times a year so be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss the launch.

How To Be a Self Directed Thinker

Master Key Master Mind Experience

Don Miguel Ruiz said it beautifully in The Four Agreement – Don’t Assume Anything.

My dad said it well too – To Assume makes an ASS out of U and Me.

Any way you look at it, most of our made up world is assumption. But it’s only natural! Why?

Because, there are vortexes, vacuums of energy everywhere. And if you weren’t taught how to turn the vacuum off or regulate the openings, you and I, my friend will be ASSuming our worlds and it will feel like it’s got the velocity of a fire hose and your world will look like a SH&* storm (just picture THAT! GROSS!) overwhelm, smelly, distasteful,  some days boring, unfulfilled, and some other days like you are a live wire ready to electrocute any other ASSuming soul around you. I get it!

For me, this week it’s been at a pretty intense velocity but I consciously made a choice and set my intentions on this path long, long ago. And I recommitted to this path back in September of 2017 when I started the Master Key Master Mind Alliance – experience. And I bloody well recommit again TODAY!

For to be a self directed thinker is what I am after.

You too?

Awesome!

Here are my take aways this week.

MUST DO:

Daily and multiple times a day even if it’s 5 minutes on super busy days or 30 when you have more time. MUST SIT – silent, and BE. yup just BE. Forgot how? I know! Well, you’ll remember soon enough. So, just BE!!  Check!

MUST CLEAR:

Daily and multiple times a day….

CLEAR!!

Clearing is essential. Why? Because we are getting so much energy in terms of thoughts, emotions, words, pictures, images, concepts, energy, electrical frequencies, toxins, bla bla bla and on and on… ad nauseum… that if we don’t clear –  there is going to get some pretty clogged up guck and you are not going to have ANY room for your own thought.

Tools on clearing are to be had all over. I have my own Diamonds I’ve cultivated over the years and talk about them here on the blog and teach them to everyone who wants to learn and share them as well in my book Peace Doesn’t Come In a Pill: The P.I.L.O.T. Your Way Method to Happiness and Success….Plug for you and the google bots…and of course plenty of tools on the pretty darn awesome Master Key experience! Yay for that!

Right in this moment, if you keep the above two in balance and your BASICS are attended to – sleep, pure water, optimal movement and nutrition, air/sunshine, nourishment (love, connection, food) shelter from elements…you get the idea –  things work out just fine and you’ll be on your way to being the awesome self directed thinker that you are – in REAL life.

If you haven’t started the 7 day mental diet challenge – do it now. We are just a few weeks away from rockin’ another 6 month master mind and scholarship opens on my birthday 9-6!