How to Make Affirmations Work For You

Monday Morning Mentoring

I’ve had an aversion to affirmations in the past. I felt they were fluff and nonsense. But that was when I was very much into controlling things from a logical network of cause and effect based on the physical universe laws (I must have been trying to channel my inner “Spock”)

Well, it’s now been about 3 years of regular affirmations in my world and I’m here to pleasantly report great success.

 

But here’s what I’ve learned to make them most effective and for affirmations to work fast!

First, you cannot be saying “I am happy, healthy and whole” while you are chowing on potato chips binge watching reruns of the good wife and dishes in the sink that need to be washed.

Instead try washing the dishes while you say, “I am happy, healthy and whole” after having ditched the chips and unplugged the boob tube (pick your latest device).

Guess what, it works, you will feel more happy, more healthy and more whole! (Personal experience example here)

Second, affirmations are not going to replace taking the action – whether it be learning to use a new device (I tried affirmation only with “mastering my smart phone” and it didn’t work – I had to actually read the manual, use the phone, try out the new apps and get some help from an expert on advanced ideas.) or becoming more successful or creating a loving relationship.

Thirdly, if you have a feeling that is incongruent with your words, that’s misalignment and you’ll get no real results.

Think of how a dog responds – it’s the emotion/the feeling that the dog responds to.

So if we get our words, our feelings and our actions in alignment – this is the magically trifecta. It works.

I’ve had miracle after miracle happen in my life, (literal miracles) from getting aligned with the thinking, feeling and will (actions), some near instantaneous to other’s taking about a year.

Things that if I had just focused on the action and making things go right by sheer will – maybe could have happened but would have taken years likely.

So, this week – let’s focus on 1 area/topic and get 100% in alignment with your thought/word, emotion/feeling, will/action.

Let me know how it goes!

Happy New Year! Out with the old and in with the NEW

Realizations and Optimizing CHI

I spent New Year’s Eve with the two most important people in my life – my boys, Ryder and Dax. I shared my love of dance, movies and story with them as we learned West Coast Swing together, came home and snuggled in bed with yummy, healthy snacks watching one of my favorite stories, Little Women.

Whatever way you chose and continue to choose to lead your life and celebrate traditions, may it be from a place of wholeness, that feeds your mind, body and soul.

This past year there have been so many changes – I believe which are all part of a process, an evolution toward optimal well being.

I’d like to share a few of those with you and the realizations as they came:

I closed my studio location and brought my training back in to my home. Where the Yogilachi Transform program evolved and the transformation and dedication of my amazing clients continued to awe and inspire me.

I used every tool in my arsenal to transition from the loss of the studio space to be open to the Divine Grace that leads me to help others the best way I know how.

I discovered that I was stronger than I thought.

I realized I don’t have to do everything.

 

I ended a stressful and difficult marriage and in it’s place created a dear and caring friendship with Kelly, my former husband and the father of my two precious boys. This took time, will power and attention, of not only myself, but each member of this dynamic family unit. But I am grateful for every piece and quite proud of where we stand today. Truly better, happier and healthier for all, including and most especially for our boys.

I rebranded and rekindled the original purpose of Yogilachi and it became a not for profit entity whose mission is To Inspire Healing Through Optimal Movement, Mindset and Nutrition. I am incredibly excited about the work we are doing through Yogilachi and can’t wait to share it with you and the world.

I regained a lost friendship. Making the conscious decision to take a real vacation, I traveled across country and spent a month with my boys camping, visiting National Parks and making it to Knoxville, TN to spend quality, in person time with my best friend. I realized how vital in person, face to face connection and support actually is.

And I commit to cultivating more and making the safe space available for others to cultivate this important connection.

I became stronger, wiser and more compassionate – for myself, for my sons and for all human beings. Dealing with my son Dax’s brain injury, from a concussion sustained in an auto accident, the repercussions led to a long road of search, discovery and a difficult healing process. This culminated in a greater understanding of brain health and it’s significant impact on the individual.

This profound shift has led me to research and training with the leading edge experts in the health of the brain. It is a year long course of study and I’m mere weeks into it, but what I can tell you is that it is profound and something that cannot be overlooked in the complete picture of optimal health. I will be focusing on this more and more and sharing with you through the Monday Morning Mentoring and private FB group you can join here.

There is a significant connection to the brain and how vital it’s health is for our total well being – mentally, emotionally, physically. This led me to courses in Ancestral Nutrition, and healing mitochondria as well as studying, using and decoding the popular ketogenic diet. The pitfalls are in the misunderstanding of application. I intend to bring a clear and workable addition to my health and wellness programs in 2018 and beyond.

There are key principles to look at – the WHOLE being, the WHOLE person. Underlying it all, we are Energy (CHI). How do we optimize that chi? I still believe it is through these 3 pillars: optimal movement, mindset and nutrition.

Each of the above has helped me become a more capable trainer, coach and healer. A better business owner and contributing member to society.

And most importantly a better mother, teacher and friend.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out. If I can help you in any way, know that I will do my best.

I believe in you.

Much Love and Chi, for 2018 and Always!

Stephana