Cultivating the skill of Self Control.

What ways can you develop your self-control in order to improve your ability to lead – lead your own life, lead your business, lead a group, etc?

Share in the comments below what you will be working on this week to cultivate and improve this skill.

Becoming a Great Leader

Monday Morning Mentoring

I do believe it will have to be the women of the western world who will ultimately save this world. But it cannot be saved from the same energy that has created the current culture, mores and structure.

Over the next few weeks I will share what I have used to heal and transform my own world, so that we can all step fully in to the roles that we are here to lead.

Before we can fully Lead, I believe there are key areas that must be address. That may look like healing, it may look like skill development. I do not believe we have to be in a suit and in a politics to make the impact that we are here to make nor to lead the lives we are meant to lead.

The first requirement is that we must each find that Unwavering Courage. We know that as we decide to take a stand, many times we will be targets. Held accountable in ways that men usually are not. This is readily seen in our relationships and in business. Just think of the woman who decides to choose how she will birth her children, judged at every turn and from the closest to the strangers as a whole. Or how the woman who chooses not to have children and focuses on her career and calling instead. Judged and ridiculed by men and women alike.

Those are just a couple of the myriad of examples, and I don’t need to go on. The fact is, we as women MUST have UNWAVERING COURAGE.

Courage: noun, the ability to meet danger and difficulties with firmness : the ability to do something that you know is difficult or dangerous

Derived from Old French corage, from Latin cor ‘heart.’

Now this has a lot more meaning to me as a Yogi and energy healer (you can see a quick video I made talking about the heart chakra) but it’s not necessary for the work we are doing this week.

Because the HEART is a key Energy vessel, not just the organ but the essence of our Unity and communion and it is where we need to lead from FIRST, this piece must be in place. How do we get unwavering courage? I am going to venture to say that each one of us has expressed in our lives at one time or another that UNWAVERING Courage.

Can you think of a time or two? I can. Just remembering those moments will be a powerful action step this week! When you recall those past moments of unwavering courage – recall every nuance, the smell, the textures, the sounds. Feel into that moment and use that to bring you strength for something you need to find courage in today.

This unwavering courage is something we must each continuously cultivate for ourselves as well as each other – to build fortitude in order to fulfill our Dreams.

The second piece that we need to focus on is Self Confidence.

The confidence to BE fully oneself without having to tear another down in order to show up. The confidence to support another without forfeiting your own needs. The confidence to take the time you need to restore and reset if you don’t know your exact next steps. These are just a few examples of how I define SELF CONFIDENCE.

This week, set aside your SELF CARE time with a focus on your HEART. Your hearts desire. Your compassion for self if you have been more focused outwardly. Your compassion for other’s if you have been more focused inward. Come in to a balance with this energy.

Take one action that you know you want to complete these week and make a promise to yourself that by the end of the week you will complete that. Whether it is telling someone no you will not be attending the party, volunteering for that fundraiser, or yes, I will take on that role and I’m excited to do so.

Whatever that piece is for you, do it from a place of PURE HEART. When you have completed that, take the time to honor and acknowledge your hearts choice.

For me this week, I am committed to facing my fear with the spartan race that I committed to last year. I signed up for this race for 2 reasons, 1 that I wanted to think about something bigger than myself and 2 because I didn’t want to confront the pain of my divorce.

I can see now what I could not see then. That unwavering courage is what I will practice this week and through every moment of the race.

When you need reinforcement, use your power stance and shout even if silently (but it’s better out loud!)

Here’s to an awesome week! Go Lead a Life YOU LOVE!

I’ll be announcing the open enrollment for the 5 DAY SOULFUL SELF-CARE CHALLENGE Soon. I only do this amazing 5 day virtual retreat 2 times a year so be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss the launch.

Developing Good Sleep Habits

Monday Morning Mentoring


This week we are focused on sleep.

For some reason this is tough for many. I know in the Pacific NW where our days are very long (sunset was just after 9) here in the summer, it’s easy to want to keep going. Remember, the sleep you get before . midnight is like double the sleep you get after midnight. I personally am in bed by 9, but if you can shoot for lights out at 10, that’s a great habit!

Add in the digital world with 24/7 access and there is no end to the distractions for getting the sleep you need. But that blue light is proven to be hazardous to your sleep habits as is the stress on your body and mind from being in front of a screen with a bombardment of non essential data being poured into you and your subconscious.

That’s why we implemented a digital sunset in our family. All digital devices are shut down by 8 during the work week and 5 on Friday and Saturday night so we have more time for personal connection.

But that’s just one part of the sleep issue. Last week I was asked a couple of times “what is the best way for me to sleep” i.e, on my side, back, stomach, etc.  I get this question a lot, and I have a lot to say on it! And I’ll answer that fully with a video and put that on Tuesday’s TIP of day.

However, right now, let’s just start with getting you in to the bed at a decent hour, without all the distractions (books, smart phone, other screens). In fact, I’d like to challenge you to take ALL digital/electronic devices out of your bedroom. If you use your phone as an alarm clock, I would change that to a non electronic device. (See my article on EMFs and It’s Stress On the Body, especially in the bedroom)

Create a ritual around sleep that enhances your bodies natural ability to restore, recover and rejuvenate.

Take a look at the space? Is there excess clutter? Is there a lot going on in the room, or is it a place of joy and pleasant relaxation, a healing sanctuary?

This week, let’s focus on implementing at least 1 action that moves you toward better sleep.

You can also see my articles on Dealing with Insomnia – the Causes and some Holistic Solutions that Work, Melatonin – the Vital B Vitamin That We Are Now Missing in Today’s World etc.