5 Keys To Making Better Decisions and Creating Bigger Impacts

The Cause and Ripple Effect of Our Decisions

Master Coach and Motivational Speaker Stephana Johnson

In 1958, Chairman Mao of China ordered all sparrows to be killed.

Destroying all nests, all eggs, all nestlings and all the sparrows in China – because they were eating some of the grain.

The first year it appeared to “work” as there was more grain. But the next year locusts became so prevalent that it wiped out entire crops.

As a direct result of his decision to kill the sparrows, 36 MILLION people died of starvation in 3 years.

How often do we make decisions and take actions without thinking of the ultimate cost?

If we can begin to understand the ripple effect, we can begin now to be more conscious, more aware of what our decisions at this moment lead to in our future.

The planting of seeds is one of the best analogies to understand the deeper meaning behind our decisions. What we see in our lives and our business is absolutely a direct result of seeds we have planted in the past.

Each decision, each action being a seed, what does your life look like today?

Is it one of joy, connection, success, and health? Or is it filled with fear, turmoil, chaos, and worry? These are not only the growth of the seeds we’ve planted along the way but also the seeds that continue to sprout offshoots and spread into all areas of our life.

Here are the 5 steps you can take to make better decisions the first time, see if they might help you:

1. Attune your Awareness. I like to use the word pliable when I talk about awareness, as it is expandable and contractible depending on the individual circumstance. Ideally one would be looking for decisions aligned with the highest good and best outcome for the whole. Sometimes we need a more expandable awareness, thinking more long term, greater impact on the whole, etc. But we also need to be able to decipher when we have enough understanding to make a viable decision.

2. Engage in Imaging. One of the greatest gifts we have is the power to imagine. Dreaming and imagination open us to possibility. It shows us what is more than just probable. However, spending so much time watching the product of another’s imagination in the form of media, video games, movies and even reading, we do not give ourselves the time and space to engage in our own imaging.

3. Find Your Focus. You will know you have found your focus when you feel unhurried and calm, joyful and the next action is crystal clear. Focus is the moment when you are whole and there is no longer a fork in the road.

4. Seek Supportive Support. Many times we find ourselves receiving what should be supportive when in fact it is a conglomeration of the machine that perpetuates prior poor decisions and prolongs actions that result in more harm. Unfortunately, this collective mentality can get more bandwidth in our awareness because we have not been equipped with filters yet (awareness helps in the filtering out).

5. Release what IS NOT working/Reinforce what IS working. When we feel cornered because of a previous poor decision, sometimes rather than giving it the heave-ho, we try to make it work to prove it wasn’t such a bad decision in the first place. Take my hard-earned experience, RELEASE what’s not working when you become aware that it’s time. This doesn’t give you carte blanche to set aflame to your lemon of a car, but the step of recognizing that a decision wasn’t the best and cutting losses allows you to move forward. And if you need to make up damage from the poor decision caused, so be it. These are not a step 1 then 2, these are concurrent, you also want to reinforce the decisions and the actions that ARE working, and is best done to balance the releasing of what’s not working. Then re-commit and establish a system to maintain the highest working results and continually monitor so it doesn’t take 3 (or 30) years before you release an unworkable decision.

Sometimes it’s hard to make decisions to create more room to build success in our lives, our relationships and our businesses, when still full of hangups from the past. If I were suggesting action steps to help, I’d say this:

  • Cultivate awareness daily through meditation practice, quiet time or just walking in nature interruption-free, one of my favorite ways to awaken.
  • Spend time daily imaging your life as you desire it to be, from your own origination. Imagine actually living from that space and imagine how it feels. This practice of engaging the imagination with awareness and intention can have a profound and lasting effect and actually rewire the past.
  • Practice focusing on 1 object or focusing on your breath for a full cycle or at least 30 seconds. This is helpful in calming chaotic thoughts prior to making decisions and can prevent taking actions based on negative emotions that lead to harmful decision making.
  • With the first 3 steps integrated, getting and giving real support becomes more doable. As a result, you will cultivate the kind of ‘supportive support’ to make the best decisions for a positive, holistic and sustainable outcome.
  • Prioritize your life around the important decisions, actions, and tasks that are working. Release the old patterns and poor habits and past decisions that are not working. Learn from it surely, but don’t beat yourself up about it. Release the wreckage. Reinforce the lesson.

These steps are symbiotic, never complete and always evolving. Like natural cycles and interdependence on the WHOLE.

If you are like me, you recognize the far-reaching effects of small decisions and hope your decisions make a long term positive impact, while also supporting your goals for today.

Dedicated to your highest good and best outcome.

Much Love, Stephana

 

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Do you ever wonder if deep and lasting love is really possible?

Would you like your partner to be more attentive?
Has foreplay become extinct?

Do you ever feel imbalanced or stressed in your daily life?
Do you wish you felt more confident, creative, prosperous?

Do you wish you had more sexual desire or felt more desirable?
Have you suffered from abuse or betrayal?
Would you like to heal old wounds?

What if changing your ideas about SEX and your Sacred BODY could transform your LIFE and heal your RELATIONSHIPS?

Speaking on the Soulful Sex Summit

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    Johanna Alper

  • Kristina Lanuza

    Kristina Lanuza

  • Roben Hand

    Roben Hand

  • Dr. Janelle Alex

    Dr. Janelle Alex

  • Stephana Johnson

    Stephana Johnson

During the Souful Sex Summit, You will…

  • Gain empowering insight and actionable ideas about SEX that can transform your LIFE and heal your RELATIONSHIPS
  • Learn how sexual energy can create amazing change in your life
  • Learn the power centers of the body and what they reveal about our inner and outer world
  • Discover ways to experience new levels of oneness with your partner or beloved
  • Discover where the body holds within it, our relationships to sex, money, jobs and personal relationships
  • Learn why and how sexual energy becomes depleted and how to power it up
  • Learn physical movements to restore the energy and tone to the muscles and improve sensation and virility
  • Learn ancient powerful breathing techniques to heal, awaken and cultivate primal energy any time you wish
  • Learn how to identify your own sexual needs and get them met
  • Understand why there is an epidemic of pornography and degradation around sex
  • Discover the sacred alchemy of sex and sensualtiy
  • Learn how abuse or betrayal are felt in the system and why it is so vital to heal this energy
  • Learn the rites and passages of every female and why both men and women must understand and honor this
  • Learn powerful techiniques to accomplish transendent sexual orgasm
  • Learn step by step actions to create sacred, satisfying sex
  • Learn what flirting really is – and how to unleash this ANCIENT power in your life
  • Discover how all acts of sex warehouse in our cellular memory and tissue and why it is vitally important that women and men alike work from a very compassionate and sacred space when sharing sex
  • Discover how to heal wounds that we either inflict upon others or upon ourselves due to small or large choices that we make
  • Learn how lovemaking can be a spiritual experience and how it can help people connect to their higher consciousness and the Divine
  • Learn why it is vital to treat yourself with Radical Self Care
  • Learn how to leverage hormonal changes for empowerment
  • Cultivate Profound Changes in your Relationships
  • Learn how to experience Ecstatic Menstruation
  • Tap in to your Unlimited Creativity
  • Open to Receiving Abundance and Love
  • Achieve a New Level of Comfort and Self Confidence in your True Femininity
  • Learn why women are so emotionally stressed and hormonally challenged today from the point of view of Chinese Medicine
  • Learn how Chinese Medicine can help women balance their InnerFeminine and Inner Masculine
  • Learn about Oxytocin and how this powerful hormone can be cultivated
  • Discover the power of ChiGong and its special effect on sexual energy
  • Learn a powerful breathing exercise to enhance your health and sexual energy
  • Learn the importance of why we must take time for Rest and Relaxation
  • Discover how you can feel more powerful and vital without adding more on your “To-Do” list
  • Learn what transcendent sex is and the benefits of practicing transcendent sex
  • Learn how to create a sacred space for yourself and your partner
  • Become more comfortable with your sexuality
  • Learn the difference between the energies of sex and love
  • Learn how to correct imbalances and blockages in your sexual and love energies
  • How physical sex is just “an indicator” of how you relate and use your sexual energy
  • What to do if sex is something you have “issues” with; whether because of trauma, family or religious programming
  • Learn how self worth issues are tied up with our money and finances and how we can free ourselves from this recurring trap
  • Learn how to reduce and even eliminate the grip of past trauma in your life – this even works with PTSD
  • Learn how our energy around sex plays a huge role in how we value ourselves – and how you can boost your self esteem and self confidence
  • Learn how to build your self-esteem so you can reclaim your power and own your own life on your terems

About Your Host

Stephana Johnson, a leader in the women’s empowerment revolution, brilliantly blends the grace of feminine intuition with practical life skills and business know-how — and the result is a soulful life that empowers women to express their souls unique song by striking the balance between business and personal success.

A personal note from Stephana

As a result of personal sexual trauma, I lived in shame, fear and confusion until I was able to transform those scars and recognize them as the sacred wounds that would lead me to my souls true perfection. Now I help others conquer  the fear and confusion, overcome the impostor syndrome and stop a life of hidden shame, self sabotage and mediocrity. I help clients expand their capacity for abundant well being in all areas of their life by transforming old wounds that had been holding them back from their true greatness. They gain clarity and confidence and with grace and ease stand in their power on their own terms.

As a result of helping women (and some smart, soulful men too) heal from past trauma previously blocking their forward movement, through transforming what I call “sacred wounds”, they discover their soul’s perfection and fulfill their unique purpose with clarity and focus while enjoying a balanced, vibrantly healthy, financially and spiritually rich life.

Blissed Out Bath With Epsom Salt

I am a big fan of “hydro therapy” and part of the treatment is Pure Epsom Salt!

The gift of water cannot be overlooked.

Hot Springs is a decadent pleasure I learned to love when my husband and I vacationed in Pagosa Springs, Colorado. There is something vitally healing when you soak in water straight from Mother Earth. With it’s spectacular mineral content and elan, you’ll

But if you don’t have a hot spring near you or can’t get to one for Valentine’s Day, create your own mineral bath and treat yourself to a nice soak. I add an abundance of the Epsom Salt.I usually buy the bulk bags at Costco and they carry Dr Teal’s which I find to be an excellent brand. I add my own essential oils of lavender, eucalyptus and something peppermint or spearmint.

Spending 20 minutes on a good soak can do wonders for tired, sore muscles. Don’t like full body baths, try just a foot bath – similar effect and invigorates tired sore feet.

Epsom Salt Bath
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways:

1. Soothes sore muscles
2. Relieves Aches and pains
3. Helps body release toxins
4. Reduces stress
5. Minimizes swelling
6. Refreshes skin’s appearance
7. Rejuvenates tired achy feet

Excellent for whole body relief and wellness!

Happy Valentine’s Eve!