At this moment I am sitting in the children’s section of my local library “borrowing” the computer and internet to write this blog post. Last week my computer was glitchy and now it is in the computer ER due to a virus – poor baby. Anyhoo, I’ve been coming to our local library to get work done (THANK YOU LIBRARY GODS) and spotted the new O on the periodicals stand. I snagged it quickly and went straight to the back page – my favorite spot where Oprah has a column “What I Know For Sure”. She writes: “Years ago I was in a disagreement with Stedman about something I no longer recall… He had done something that hurt my feelings or was somehow very upsetting to me. And I’ll never forget his response. He said, “I’m sorry. This isn’t the man I want to be. I can be better.”
Her next word was “Whoa” and that’s exactly what I thought along with a big WOW! I also thought, boy, that’s the kind of guy I’d like to know and have around. I just realized, I have two young boys I’m raising and that’s going on the agenda for my boys to learn (AND for me to model!). One thing I have rarely, come to think of it I don’t know the last time I heard I’m sorry from my spouse. Note to self, add to the list of items to have a discussion about.
Oprah’s response was lovely as I have come to expect from her, a compassionate and intent look at how and what she does plays a role in the whole. The article is worth reading in the April 2014 issue.
It’s really got me thinking. What kind of a mother do I want to be? What kind of woman do I want to be? I ask you, who do you want to be? Who and what do you want to be as parent, as a wife, as a coach, as a friend, as a …?
This place of knowing who we are is crucial to the direction of our mindset, our beliefs, our behavior or lack there-of. I suggest coming from this place of knowing, choosing what you value, and then you will better know the answer to what do I want to BE?
I’ll take my top values and go through this: I value Kindness, Innovation, Competence, Trustworthiness, Compassion. As a kind, innovative, competent, trustworthy, compassionate woman, mother, empowerment coach and business owner how do I BE? What would I accept or not accept? How would I act? What thoughts would I think? Now I can answer that question more clearly. And I know what to do and I know how to get better because I now have a gauge I set, not something arbitrary along the lines of “should’s, must do’s and have to’s”.
For me, exploring and taking the time to know myself so fully that I know what I value most and live in to the BE (might as well say DO and HAVE as well) from that place, I think we’ve got something here. As an innovative woman and business owner, I wouldn’t let a pesky virus stop my communications! I’m sure glad we have wonderful tools and technology and resources to help me BE better.
So what kind of you do you want to BE?
Open, Abundant Joy and Love Stephana